4 Ways to #MoveOn From Your Ex
Mahirap mag move on. Masakit. We’ve all been there. Experiencing good love gone bad is painful.Mahirap mag move on. Masakit. We’ve all been there. Experiencing good love gone bad is painful.
Hindi naman importante who was right and who was wrong. The bottom line is that it hurts and that the pain is preventing us from moving forward. While time is the best healer, here are 3 concrete steps you can take that will help you.
- Cut off contact.
Huwag mo na sya i-stalk sa FB, IG, Twitter. Do this for yourself. No, you do not need to be friends. Keeping an ex in your life is not by itself a sign of maturity; knowing how to take care of yourself and your emotional well-being is.
- Let go of the fantasy.
Hindi natin minsan naiisip na a large majority of the pain we experience during a break-up has nothing to do with the relationship we really had. Relationships always end for a reason. It is rarely a complete surprise because things generally haven’t been going well for a while. Minsan kasi to shield us from the pain, binabalewala natin ang mga totoong nangyayari just to keep hanging on to a relationship. Remember the full truth of why the relationship ended.
- Make peace with the past.
When someone treats you poorly or does something hurtful, natural lang na magalit tayo. Anger helps us to be aware of situations that are not in our best interest and can facilitate the separation process from an unhealthy relationship. But when we hold on to anger and resentment from past experiences we take them with us into future relationships. Learning to forgive and make peace with things that happened in the past, is the best way to let go.
- Love yourself more.
Ultimately, moving on from a relationship that wasn’t working is about loving yourself. Kapag sobrang sakit na, hindi na tama yun. For some, this is the hardest part. Believing that you deserve to be in a loving relationship with someone who shares your values and treats you well requires that you view yourself in a positive light. Embrace your chance to do this so that your next relationship can be even more amazing. Para sa ating lahat, meron ibibigay si God, na talagang magiging partner na natin for life. Pray that He will guide you to the right one.